Semalam I had a 20 minit talk with the boys. Just want to share with caring readers out there and perhaps if this happened to your precious, you will be prepared.
Haziq & Hazim were annoyed with a boy at their sek. agama. Biasa la budak2. Entah apa silapnya this boy ejek twin and asked other friends not to befriend them. Dia kata kuku 2 beradik ni panjang la, telinga kotor la...(pls yer...they were fine except kuku a bit longer). Tapi yang bagi boys sangat sakit hati ialah bila dia ajak2 org lain jangan kawan dgn dorang. And another thing that makes Haziq angry the most is they didn't know this boy. Kelas lain katanya.
I remember when I was in secondary school. I was having a meeting with my Girl Guides friends at the school canteen. Came this boy who suddenly interrupted the meeting. I just ignored him and continue with the meeting. He is soooo annoyed when I able to ignore him suddenly shouted at me and threaten to beat me up...(Gila ke budak lelaki ni ...) I said I didn't know u that's why I didn't talked to u. He said everybody knows him... (Hahaha..very funny!)....Cut the story short, he came to me the next morning and said sorry. I was being informed that the Headmaster had warned him after few teachers reported it (which I didn't know at all) and my mom came to school and wanted the Headmaster to warn him (also I didn't know until I came home that day). In addition my guys friends had a "boys talk" with him! (huhuhuh...i miss u guys..)
In conclusion, sometimes if u being hurt but u didn't know what u did wrong, maybe that person were annoyed because you able to ignore him. Tak kira berapa annoying pun sikap dia, your inner strength berjaya mengawal emosi dan sikap you untuk balas dia balik. So sebab tu dia rasa sakit hati sebab tak berjaya buat kita sakit hati!..Aha!..Tink!
Ini yang Mama bagitau the boys. "Mungkin ada sesuatu yang buat budak lelaki tu geram dgn Haziq & Hazim. So benda2 simple dan tak masuk akal pun akan jadi hal. Dan benda macam ni berlaku bukan di kalangan budak2 sahaja, orang dewasa pun sama. The boys were suprised ! They said" Takkan la org besar pun boleh buat perangai budak2?" Tink!..something to learn huh big gals/guys....hihihi
The more you ignore him the more he felt annoyed and eventually will stopped that attitude and maybe will become your friend one day. So just be yourself. If the whole world didn't want to be your friend, you still got each other, Tisya, Me & your Abah to be your best pal!"
Being a parent Mama belajar untuk bersedia dengan apa saja persoalan dari anak2. Kadang2 kenangan lampau kita memberi pengajaran berguna utk anak2. Kita pun tak sangka yg salah satu kenangan yang nak kita lupakan rupanya menjadi satu cerita inspirasi utk anak2. I never like that incident. I still remember it in detail but now I learnt that incident had made me stronger and wiser. (and popular!...ihiks!)
p/s..tink! tink!....what your story ....